“It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
Those words how true they ring. I envy people who have experienced this unique and very satisfying relationship in their lives. Anyone who has not felt the love of a parent; a love for a child or a spouse, has missed a very special bond.
This Thursday is Valentine’s Day, a day to tell someone those magic three words- “I love you.” Adults have ways to express it….giving of flowers, candy, a special dinner, jewelry. Have you ever thought about asking children … “What Love Means to Them.” I want to share some comments which was shared by a friend on the Internet when that question was posed to children 4-8 years old. “I think you will ‘love’ their innocence.”
“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails any more, so my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis in his hands. That’s love.” -Rebecca, age 8.
“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”- Jessica, age 8.
“My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.” Clare, age 6.
“During my piano recital, I was on stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared any more.”- Cindy, age 8.
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap and just sat there. When his mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, “Nothing, I just helped him cry.”
Now a few notable quotes from adults on love.
“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.’’ – Judy Garland.
“Without love, what are we worth? Eighty-nine cents! Eighty-nine cents worth of chemicals walking around lonely.” – M*A*S*H, Hawkeye
That last quote sums up how critical and how amazing love really is. Love is a characteristic we all want prominently in our relationship with others. Treat others as you want to be treated.
So, this Valentine’s Day, make a special effort and commit your energy to “loving one another.” These times have been most challenging but a greater respect toward others could go a long way to change the attitudes of many.
By Bob Simmons